Stored Some Stories & Stories Revealed here... Is this what I call going through the process of Arrange Marriage!!!

Dear Bloggi,

I always have to think very hard for a topic to tell you, though I always feel like talking to you but don't want to bore you with not so interested talks.

This time I thought to share with you the process of marriage proposals & going through them. It will sound bit weird to you but I am sure I have some or one interesting tale to tell you. For writing this, I may have to bear the brunt of my mom's anger because according to her, girls do not discuss these things with others and I am sharing this with the world.

In Indian society especially in Punjabi households, the aunty community is very strong. Farther the relation that binds you with those aunties, more worried they are for you getting married, especially for girls. They always have one complaint from girl's mother, “why aren’t you getting your daughter married? it is the right age.” She is a girl, what will the world say & she may not even get a good match if she gets old. Doesn’t matter if she is your cousin’s friend mother’s sister, aunty will repeat the same question everytime they meet the girl's family or spot the girl herself in any family function. If their daughter’s are unmarried then they will say, saab sanjogo ki baat hai, jab time hoga ho jaega (everything is decided by God, when the right time will come, they will automatically get married). Dear Aunty, God is equally ours as it is yours, so God will take care regarding our marriage too.

You remain single for only once in your lifetime & get married for rest of your life, so why people are in hurry to lose their bachelorhood. You cannot stare & appreciate a handsome hunk, nor you can wish for him to flirt with you. After you are married, it is a crime to mingle with your single female friends. For them they are joking about boys in general & drag you & your husband in the joke. Single friends tease their married counterparts till death. Not fair…. :-(

When you are single, you are relaying on your parents for all the good things in life and it is their duty to provide the same. Once you are married, you can’t expect from them, now you are in their position & it is now your duty to provide all the best things in life to your future children. Days go far when you used to have Masti & no taking onus or responsibility of anything.

Anyway, I got diverted from the point for which I started this blog. We were talking about the ever concerned & worried aunties. Those worried aunties then bring some prospective grooms for you to have a meeting. A girl & a boy meeting for the first time to decide whether they are compatible enough for marriage is like visiting a boutique with the intention of window shopping & navigating through series of same looking dresses & thinking of making fun of foolish designs & suggesting your enemies to buy the same.

However for those aunties it is half battle won & if boy says yes then the engagement is fixed for the same day.

What if the girl says no??? That question doesn’t arise because if a girl says no then she has to suffer all the nagging from those faithful aunties, “tere ta zada nakhre ho rae hai, kya kami hai is sone munde mein (you through so much tantrums, what is wrong with this handsome boy)”. I wonder, what is the definition of being handsome for them.

For us, it is important that boy should talk sense & our intellect should match but for them nothing else is required if a girl & boy are meeting & boy says yes. For God sake, we are living in 21^st century & still we have to think for a reason to say no to a boy for marriage. Isnt just a “No” would do?

Thank God for lovely & understanding parents. They have always left the final decision with me & kept quite when others scolded them for giving me leniency for everything.

One of those aunties’s had got a marriage proposal for me one fine day. They convinced my parents to atleast meet the boy once and fixed up a meeting at centrally located place. According to them, the guy was handsome (can’t comment on that because all faces made by God are beautiful), he is well educated (is graduate with BA pass degree), earning well (with call centre, evening shift), marriageable age (30 years, 6 years older than me) & from a respectable Sikh family. For me it’s not important to marry in same community but as our elders say, in arrange marriage, we can not go out of caste & religion. Objecting on him being in call centre the aunty replied, this is for the time being, after that he will join his family business, car accessories dealing :-\ While asking regarding his education level, aunty replied, why does anyone need education to run his family business? How convenient… :-|

So they came, his family met mine; we both didn’t speak anything except greeting each other’s parents (I didn’t know what should I say in such situations). His mother asked me few questions in front of everyone, what is your height? My inner voice said, I hope you are not blind & can see me standing. But I said subtly, its 4’11. She then asked how much you have studied, my inner voice: I studied more than your son, I am a postgraduate in vocational course & did economics honors in my graduation but I said did PG in Advertising & PR.

Then the most irksome question she can ever ask, what is your salary? My inner voice, are you planning to bank on my salary & buy your jewellery or things that you are luring for long time to buy, which your husband didn’t get it for you. However I said, right now its 2,60,000 per annum. Her eyebrows went up & she shouted 2 lakhs!!!! I clarified that it’s yearly & not monthly.

After this interview, even my nani (grandmother) got pissed off but we stayed there not to create an embarrassing situation. Then this mediator aunty sent both of us far from everyone to talk to each other. Every eye is on us & we have few seconds’ not even minutes to ask each other such questions that help us to decide if we want to spend our life together or not. F*** you guys!!!!

We went a bit far from the place where our parents were sitting. He was quite so I thought that it would be funny if both of us do not speak at all. So I asked him the same old question that my friends told me to ask every guy I meet for marriage purpose:

Me: What are your hobbies?

Thank God he opened his mouth & he replied wisely: it’s travelling.

Me: Nice. That means you must have travelled a lot in life.

He: Yes I have.

Me: Which all places?

He: I went to Amritsar, Golden Temple.

Me: Pause at first. Golden Temple??? Every Sikh would have visited Golden temple, even if their hobbies does not include travelling. So it is not even a place to mention. If your hobby is travelling then you must have travelled lot other unique places.

He: Wese to I have a car but I prefer to travel through metro.

I wasssss dazed to hear that. I asked: what? You mean travelling in metro is your hobby?

I thought bit weird but its fine; people can have such hobby.

Then I again enquired: How much do you travel in metro?

He: not much, from office to home & from home to office :-o

I was not in the position to ask anything else …so I kept quite

Then he started his interview session:

He asked in English: How taal (tall) are you?

Inside Me: u looked dumb & now you are deaf too. Didn’t you hear when your mommy dearest asked me this? Have you ever seen yourself in the mirror, if I was tall, I wouldn’t have even come to meet a short heighted person like you. Being a man short height could be a problem for you because you will only have to select girl shorter than you but I can get any man, tall or short (ofcourse, taller than me). Also you would have to face more problems to search a girl matching your IQ & your hobbies.

And gorgeous things come in small packages, your momy couldn’t teach you this because she is herself gifted with poor intelligence. Small things do come in small packages but same doesn’t apply for brains. Small brains are dangerous thing.

However I said loudly answering his query . . .

Me: 4’11

He started himself: I have great future plans. I am planning to settle abroad.

Me: Which country?

He: Anywhere but abroad

Me: Have you got a job somewhere?

He: No but I will apply. I like foreign

Me: Silence!!! Could I say anything else after hearing this?

Conclusion: Do I need to even conclude this conversation? Isn’t this obvious from the discussion itself?

But I will tell you what happened after that.

We went to our respective homes.

My family:

Mom – overemotional, God loving person

Dad – Quite observer & quick decision maker

Nani – Furious & ever optimistic. Earth is shrinking & she will ask me, ab kal office kese jaegi (How will you go to office tomorrow)?

My Bro, Angad – tempestuous & possessive for his sister

Masi – smart & straight forward

Ruchi Didi (Masi’s Daughter) – My ideal. Smart & Great guide

Rishi Bhaia (Masi’s son) – Ever funny & sarcastic wit

QnA with them

My family: How did you like him?

Me: Blurred everything what we spoke…

Mom, weeping: Hey Bhagwan, esa kyu hota hai mere bacho ke sath (Ohh God, why always my kids). Why you made us meet them at the first place?

Dad: Strange!!!

Angad: I didn’t even like his face. I wish to have given him a hardclobber

Nani: No, he is a good boy. He touched my feet while greeting. I didn’t like his mother though.

Masi: All men are idiots

Ruchi Didi: No need to take any shit from these kinds of people

Rishi Bhaia: Laughs. the boy is so cute & Nani!!! touched your feet??? hahhahaha. Even bholu (our driver) touch your feet daily. Would you make him your great son in law?

We didn’t give a call back to mediator aunty thinking that they will understand our answer. Next day, she called herself & informed that the guy’s family called her and said . . .

“The girl has an attitude problem & doesn’t look like a homely girl.”

Thank God, you saved me from rejecting a person.

Mom, weeping: Hey Bhagwan, mere bacho ki kismat mein kya likha hai? (Ohh God, what is there in my kid’s destiny) Why we ever met those people.

Dad: So Strange. Who are they to say such thing? Stupid people

Angad: I really want to bang my fist on that monkey’s face really hard this time

Nani: He can be improved. Tell him to meet me once. I will give him lecture

Masi: Do they want a homely girl? Marry a maid, idiots.

Ruchi Didi: Don’t worry. You deserve better!!!

Rishi Bhaia: Still laughing… hahahahahaha

BLAST THE BA*****S

"Blast the unwanted, selfish & relaxing government, Blasting us doesn't solve your problems. Authorities will not wake up from their trance not even for fulfilling your demands nor for our rescue", says Common Man to Terrorist Groups.

As news channels are saying, people dying of terror attacks is becoming only numbers because one after the other attacks are happening as usual & government is sleeping on piles of paper with information on number of people died & injured AS USUAL.

Our memories didn't even vanish of the last bomb blast held in the city that we saw on TV & now we are seeing again without much time gap. It is easy to vanish the memories, we will still forget but what about the ones who lost their son, daughter, husband, father in the attack because of the mistakes & evil deeds of others. I pity the government for their lame excuses of issues of Public concern & I even pity them more when they are short of words when any terror attack happens in the country.... Here are few instances ....

Government Says: We strongly condemn the attacks.

My Answer: Obviously. Even if you support them, you can't say it. Saying this doesn't heal us a bit

Government Says: It is a cowardly act.

My Answer: Really!!! I thought that for this the terrorist must get a bravery award. After all it was not easy to break all security barriers & taking a bomb inside high security area, hiding it in the bank.

Government Says: We will not succumb to terrorism.

My Answer: Is that so? So what are we doing right now. We as a layman has lost all hopes to become a terror free country and we have heard it several times.

Government Says: This was a planned attack.

My Answer: News for me. I thought that the bomb which terrorist were carrying, got dropped accidentally from their bag & got blasted. They bought it to play among themselves sitting in Delhi High Court's garden. We heard that it was planned & you informed the same to the affected government, so that means YOUR JOB IS DONE. Now go & sit in your AC office & have tea+snacks from our hard earn money

Government Says: We'd warned the (affected) state government of possible terror attacks.

My Answer: Thanks for your consideration. I am also warning you guys that this is not the last terror attack. Someone somewhere are plotting for another attack, may be of high intensity than this. Can you take action hurriedly & save our nation from another attack?

Government Says: The government pledges X lakhs of rupees for bereaved families.

My Answer: Please allow me to kill your kid & I pledge to give X lakhs of rupees to your family.

Government Says: There are no leads yet.

My Answer: As expected. It will remain like this. DOnt stress too much. We must hire those intelligent terrorist in your place. They seem better at their work than you. So why we are spending money on you. Till when will you guys have free lunches on common man's expense?

Government Says: We can't fight terror alone.

My Answer: Ok, no problem. Take your wife, kids, neighbours & friends along.

Government Says: The perpetrators will be brought to book.

My Answer: We have already read several such books. You can maintain your books till the time you want & keep living your life the rosy way you are living right now. Have fun & Party when perpetrators are brought to books. All the best for great life.

Take their interviews as much as you can, they are expert & have their scripts ready for almost every situation, for inflation, for unemployability, for poverty, for 26/11 type of attacks, even for corruption by their own officials. They can be seen everywhere at every channel & newspaper (PR opportunity for them) & can be seen uttering anything coming to their mouth, every other politician saying almost the same things. We don't want to see dogs barking but tiger attacking. Can you change yourself for us?

High Fever and Bleeding!!!

High FEVER & BLEEDING!!!!!

When we think of these terms, we feel horrified and tensed however these words are common for India when Cricket World Cup is on. Here the terms we refer to are "High Cricket Fever" and "Bleeding Blue"!!! There are two veins in the body of every Indian from where the blood flows - Cricket and Bollywood!!! But when it is cricket then no one in this world can take its place. It is not our national sport still cricket word is synonymous with Crazy India. We eat cricket, we sleep cricket and we dream cricket. A nation crazy for a sport of bat and ball.

You can expect people missing their farewell party, forgetting their anniversary, postponing their child's polio drop all for a game of cricket. Keep on saying anything to a man watching cricket, you can expect that he has heard nothing. Even a fire alarm is not enough to move him from his chair. While evacuating the building on a fire alarm, he will still ask a question from his acquittance, "Yar score kya tha last".

India fought the semi final match on Wednesday (CWC 2011) and played against Pakistan. It was like an ultimate match for India, a matter of life and death. Playing against Pakistan is a kind of match which even an infant would not miss. Country's economy or share market or falling census was not important that day. All employees/workers were craving for a holiday that day and they got it because even bosses were off to their TV screen, ESPN sports. Normally, working professionals dont get holiday so easily even if their family member have died or they are suffering from constipation. But when it comes to cricket then no illness, cousin marriage, out of town, exams, prospective groom visiting to see me, excuses are required. I guess Cricket has become sole aim in our life.

We sit glued to TV till the last ball and pray for Sachin to make a century as if he would be sharing his profit with us. We reached till finals in 2003 world cup but lost to Australia in final match. I felt really bad but this world cup, we sent Australia to where they belong, sitting idly at their home and watching India in finals.

National Holiday, according to google, where a country celebrates its independence or establishment. I guess winning from Pakistan or Australia or any other team is a freedom in itself so it has be national holiday.

Talking about India vs Pakistan Match, then it is more important than our child's education plans. India vs Pakistan blood flows in every Indian's vein. It is like winning a world cup for us if we are winning from Pakistan in semi final or quarter final or T20 or even net practice match (we should win it all). We love our thy neighbors (Pakistan) and want security and peaceful life for them. Dont want them to take so much pressure to be in finals. Thats why we sent them home to take some rest. And we finally Won . . .

Internet was flooded with funny messages where people expressing their elation on our win. Even newspaper choose to convey their joy through catchy lines and witty cartoons.

Wednesday(the day of the match) was declared national holiday and even the pubs and restaurants had thin attendance. Sweet shops were worried as till 8 o clock evening they didnt have a single sale. Terrible jammed outer ring road was empty that day as if some curfew or emergency have been declared. This situation was there everywhere in India, even in remote regions where electricity is the major concern. Did we for once felt scarred about what will happen to our important business emails?

Emails also had so much fun too like the pictures below:

When cricket fever is on, a person can experience the real meaning of national integrity in India. People from all walks of life come under one roof and watch match together. Even trespassing is allowed that day. Put the TV screen outside a fish market and switch on the match, in no time everyone will be surrounding the TV screen and none in the market.

If you want to evacuate a room, switch the match on in other room and all will shift there. This idea works better than a hoax bomb in the room announcement. Some people dont even move from their TV Screens, for anything as important as natural calls, in the fear of loosing a wicket. Such are superstitious Indians.

Wednesday (India vs Pakistan semi final match, CWC 2011) was the best day when Girlfriends can test their boyfriend's love. If he can miss the match and take her out to dine then he is totally in love with her (quoted by some Netizen). However guys defended themselves by saying, "This thing is not in public interest and it is a pure terrorism.

On the day, I missed the match for few minutes to go to the doctor. While I was sitting inside the Doctor's cabin and Pakistan's 1 player got out. We got to know from the screech of the crowd outside the hospital. It was so loud that a heart patient would have surely died. I asked the doctor if any heart patient is admitted.

Few scholars had to tell the world through their status messages that it is just a game and not a war. You never know, India's loss can result in not just breaking of TV sets or furniture but even more.

Now its time to beat Srilanka and repeat the history. In the past they have already been beaten by Hanuman and Ram. And they dont stand a chance of winning because Sri Lanka's Map comes free when we buy India's Map :P

Being "OptiCricket" is good for health and that is what we do till the last ball even if the scorecard reads, 6 runs to win from 1 ball remaining. . .Ab to chakaa laga hi....

Right Way to live

Right Way to live, a life's journey!!!

Few things are always memorable in life, like the first step a child takes, first time she goes to school, first time she says mom and first time you take her

out to dine and very sophisticatedly she sits like a fine lady and finishes her food. You start wondering if at all she had been taught to behave like that. Then you think if she is born with the feminine and graceful qualities.

2 to 3 years old boy may be sipping his cold drink with loud bubbling noise sitting far from the table and lot of straws being attached to one another to reach his drink. Tell him not to do it and he hardly acknowledges what you are saying.

This difference makes girls so dear to their parents. She does not promise to stay with her family forever, nor she can assure to be there whenever her family needs her, still a father's heart beats faster for his daughter, may not equally fast for his wife or his son.


What is so special about her? While going out for a movie with her friends she takes permission from her parents, asks for pocket money and promises to be at home on time. But a boy goes to his college, remembers that today is his bunk day, visits the nearby movie hall and watches any random movie just to pass his time. His mom calls asking about his whereabouts and then he informs that he is in the movie hall watching movie with friends and argues with his mother for disturbing him and cuts the phone. This isn't mean that he does not love his parents but his style of expressing his love is somewhat different.

Ask a girl if she wants to leave her parents and go to other house after marriage then her answer would be a big "NO". Ask a guy same question and his answer would also be a "no" however he further adds, "But it depends on the situation and circumstances, things want me to be away then I will have to."

Irony is that, it is the girl who has to leave her parents / her house and stay forever in someone else house, but a guy lives in his own house for his whole life. He sleeps on the same regular bed where he is most comfortable sleeping, sits on his regular couch, watches his favorite programs on TV and eats what he is born eating. However everything changes for a girl. She accepts the house given to her, she sleeps on a different bed than at her parents' home. She eats according to the taste of her in-laws house and does not fight for the TV remote. This is how she learns to adjust and grows faster than her brother (this answers the common question asked in every other movie, why girls grow faster than boys).

After a while, everything gets into the habit and she starts liking the new things given to her. She misses her mom's Dal Makhani but her mom in-law's Veg Pulao is just amazing to have.

Slowly and steadily things get back to normal and she adopts the "right way to live" and follow the customs which she is born to follow. Just like in office, your old company knows your worth but when you shift job you have to start from the beginning and prove your worth again. It is like, you are just being born and telling the world who you are.

I was bought up, watching my parents around and larking with my brother. We have a joint family and every time I used to be around someone or the other. I never experienced sitting alone, nor I stayed without them ever before I got married.

One fine day, I woke up, I didn't find anyone around. I was not able to hear my niece's chirping voice. Missed my brother sleeping besides me with his open mouth. Missed my mom's wake up call, missed arguing with my papa in the morning for first turn to use dressing table.

Before getting married I used to rush home, through my bag in any corner, take up the chips or scan the fridge and sit idly in front of TV for hours. Now I have to think and plan to go to my home (parent's house) and when I go there, I cannot sit idly. I have to help my mom in the kitchen, sit like a lady and not a teenager and serve food to everyone before munching my chips. My brother laughed at many instances on me as I am showing too much of maturity which was least expected from me, being the youngest daughter in the family. Bow to everyone and touch everyone's feet and greet them, before marriage only a "Namaste" or a "Hi" would do.

I wonder sometimes when I visit my parents home, am I the same girl who used to live here and had the authority on every single thing. Now I have to be decent enough not to fight for TV remote or chocolate with my brother. Because he gives it all himself and does not leave any scope for a fight or snatching!!! Not fair!!! After marriage my importance increased :) or it was there earlier but no one showed.

"Parents cry when their daughter is leaving their home after marriage. That means they are sad then why do they have to do it?" I asked the same question when my father cried on my wedding. He replied, "We are not sad that you are going, we want you to stay happy and we may not be there physically to see your smiling face, that's why we are crying."

I also questioned, "I wont be able to share my happiness, sadness, grief's and mood swings with my best friend, my mom, for what I am making these sacrifices and suffering these discomforts?"

He again consoled me and said, "You are getting your new pal for rest of your life, who is of same age as yours. He will understand you better. He will prove a better friend because he will be there with you no matter what. Your mom also has to take care of her husband, son and rest of the family but his sole and first responsibility is you. That's why we call them sole mates and he will prove a better friend than anyone in this world."

My mom said, "During my wedding day if I would have got stubborn like you and spoken like you then you would not have seen the world and I would not have got a dear daughter like you. In that case, I would have been in loss and not you. So dear, do you want to face that loss yourself?"

The question stuck me, I stopped giving further thoughts on the same and got carried away with what life was offering me. Enjoyed every bit of it however at the back of my mind I always knew that living away from my parents would not be that easy. But such is life. Sometimes we get difficult question paper in exam, it does not mean that we would not attempt the paper. We have to clear this exam of life with flying colors.

Now people tell me, "choti si ladki ki shadi bhi ho gai". This phrase always reminds me of my life before marriage, my childhood, my cousins and all the festivals I celebrated with them. When we all teen girls of the colony used to make a gang and visit people's house for Kanjake. I remember how a night before, me and my cousin used to make plans and small little girls used to wake early for the festival celebration, getting ready wearing beautiful outfits. Those bangles and bindi used to look adorable on tiny hands and forehead. Now the arms have grown and size of bangles has also grown. Where has the time gone and before I can think to blink, I was married to the guy of my dreams.

Amazing time that was but more amazing time still awaits for every girl in the world!!!

Watching TV is still easy but watching "the breaks" in between...

Watching TV is still easy but watching "the breaks" in between...

I am not a very avid appreciator of things. I criticize things before taking into consideration that they also have a good side too. Many people have told me this and they are often true. This may be a way I express myself and want everything to be perfect.

I am a couch potato, fanatic for slothful life and can sit in front of TV for hours doing and watching nothing. Normally while watching a stupid serial people switch the channel at commercial breaks, but here I have made an effort not to touch the remote while a commercial break and switch as soon as the break ends.

There are few ads worth applauding and few really make you laugh at its idiocy. To begin with, I want to mention some idiotic ads, reason for our 30 sec laughter.

The king of idiotic ads, “Fair and Handsome – fairness cream for men”. The makers didn’t get worst jingle than this, “hi handsome, hi handsome”, just because the guy is fair. Who said that fair is beautiful? I like men with wheatish complexion and most girls will agree with me on this. Your true color is your own which is attractive.

This is such an irony that a highly successful and popular guy (especially among girls) like Shahrukh Khan has wheatish complexion and is endorsing a fairness cream. Didn’t the company officials told him to get fair before suggesting someone else in the ad. The cream was not able to make Shahrukh Khan fair and good that he didn't become one.

The ad of “fair and lovely” has even crossed the limits of inanity. If these ads were true then no one on this earth will have dark complexion. Even Africans would have to search for veil. These creams claim to make you as white as milk and not less than this. After becoming fair the model in the ad fulfills her desire of becoming successful (a model, an actress or an airhostess).

She was gloomy when she was dark. She waited for the magic to happen. After the magic is done by "Fair and Lovely" she gets the courage to go for auditions with a huge COLGATE smile and her new found fair colored skin. In this case I think it is important for her to join a personality development class rather than using a fairness cream because her confidence lied in her skin color and not her talent.

Thank God this is not true otherwise we would have missed to have super talented actresses like Rani Mukherjee, Bipasha Basu and Kajol to name a few.

Another in the line is “Tata Tea Ad”. In the ad it is shown that the tea really awakes you not from your sleep but enlighten you with your hidden qualities. A woman after having a sip of the tea suddenly realizes that she has the capabilities of becoming a catering manager.

Amazing na. . . Just like it happens in movies, a sudden wind from nowhere starts to blow her hair backwards. This means that she is enlightened now. A simple cup of tea changes her life. Then this tea should be offered to Shiv Sena and other corrupt politicians to enlighten them as well. Unemployed should also taste this tea, they will get jobs. Why didn't this brand come when I was in college? I was so damn confused about which field to select as a career option. A tea acting as an astrologer, a Guru. Does intangible things have such potential to change the world...Such powerful brands are coming these days. Mothers should feed this tea to her infant instead of milk. Good things should start early. They will be enlightened since their childhood.

One of the sanitary napkin ad shows a girl sleeping with a completely stiff posture. She can’t even move and sleep comfortably. Thank God this isn’t true either. It is being projected that before this brand came in market girls were leading a miserable life and didn’t even have chance to have a sound sleep. This product came as God’s angel and allowed us a better sleep at night. You aren’t making an ad for sleeping pills, are you?

Next in line and eagerly waiting for its turn is “AXE effect deo and perfume ad”. Hahahahahahahahaa.. This ad even claimed money back guarantee if after applying AXE deo girls do not feel attracted towards you. Some even claimed their money back but they didn’t get any. The ad actually forgot to tell the boys that before applying this deo, you need to take a proper bath. A stinky and sweaty person, no matter how many bottles of AXE perfume he has poured or chucked onto him, he will still smell yukkk.

And please give me a break, does the bottle have diamonds inside it that all society girls starts following the whacky guy. If they liked the perfume so much then they should visit a grocery store to buy it, not run behind the man.

Yet another is the ad of “Rupa Frontline”. The guy comes at the airport and stands in the security line and he is not wearing anything except undergarment. This implies that if you have purchased this brand then you are sure to have no money left to buy clothes or does it makes you so flamboyant. Flamboyancy for undergarments . . . hmm. . . doesn't work. . . Some things are good if hidden and not displayed.

No girl on this earth will be pulled towards you if you don’t have simple dressing sense, forget about being smart. The model in the ad should not be allowed to even board the plane. And to add to the misery, his UG says FRONTLINE which means that he should stand in front of the line while security checks. What logic, clap clap slap slap. I wonder what if in future the brands come by the name as “loocue”.

Still few of them left to be thrashed out, “Katrina Kaif’s ad of slice”. The tagline of the ad says, “Slice, Mango Pleasure, AAMSUTRA”. What is there in the brand to link it up with "SUTRA" thing? Please make me understand one thing, what happens when someone actually drinks it, because Katrina behaves as if she is drunk and someone insisting her to have Adam's forbidden fruit. But it is just a Mango drink, control your over enticement, Katrina.

The customers will have to buy the bottle of slice and not Katrina Kaif so here advertiser got confused what they are actually selling. On top of this, the visuals are also not appealing. The brand ambassador herself does not even have a full sip of the drink, she only has a drop of it and that too someone else gives her in a very tacky manner. Audiences don’t even see her gulping the drop. Few questions come to my mind, one being, is it safe to slurp this drink? Other question, is this drink only for boys?

For a simple mango drink the advertisers are luring the customer to buy it and not on the basis of its taste. I wonder what this drink all about…

It doesn’t mean that we don’t have good and thought provoking ads but as I told you, I like criticizing before appreciating. These are not the only idiotic ads in India, we still have zillions of them but good to leave the post here by reiterating a message, 'Ads are supposed to sell the product and idea does matter a lot. So use your BRAINS before using anything else.'

Whatever happens, happens for something good...

One day, a conversation with my friend insisted me to write this blog. I told her all these things and she felt better after listening to me. I hope everyone does find few words of solace in this post.

My friend:I am jumbled up with problems and everyone is happy around me. When you are actually deplorable then no one is there with you and you are left alone with a whole lot of problems. My life is messed up and it will remain like this forever...

Here is my commend to her...

No new words or new philosophy I am going to teach you today. I just want to remind you the very famous dialogue of "Kareena Kapoor" in "Jab We Met", "jo insan actual mein chahta hai, real mein use hamesha wai milta hai"-"if a person wishes to have something actually then he surely gets it".

It may sound abrupt but just look and observe the people around you. A pessimist fails once and it is multiplied by 100 coz of his attitude. He will be depressed, sad and loom for so many days. He will talk to everyone with anger and therefore his problems multiply. Nobody wants to even see a freaking person like him. Before doing any other job he knows that he has failed already and he actually does coz his attitude has killed his self confidence and faith.

Whereas an optimist’s one failure will make him sad for 1 day or less but he immediately consoles himself and looks at the positive side, takes a deep breath and laughs around with his friends saying "who rejected me didn’t have eyes but button". Therefore for him the world is at fault, so he tries again and again and again unless he lands at what he wants (PS: given same situation to both of them).

Somewhere and sometimes even God surrenders and gives you what you want :-)

This has actually happened with me. Pessimist didn’t want to be successful and so he doesn’t and an optimistic wanted to be successful and at the end, he gets what he wants, if not everything then something satisfactory. God knows better than us what is good for us. We may get adamant like a small kid to play with a particular toy but our parents know better which toy is hazardous for us so that’s why they bring some other, more nice toy to play with but will never leave their kid without a toy. Same goes with God and human's relationship.

It’s all about perspective. We may be sad for a particular thing, example, “someone said bad words for us behind our back”. However an optimistic will feel betrayed for a little time but besides spoiling his day for a person who doesn’t matter to him, he will see the positive side, make fun of the person in his heart and think him as a fool who didn’t understand a gem of a person like him.

If I may take an example from the movie "Jab we met" itself, in the first scene, Shahid Kapoor was distressed. He leaves his lavish lifestyle /business/his family and everything behind coz his girlfriend ditched him. In his journey he meets Kareena, the ever bubbly and most importantly optimistic person. Nothing personally changes in his life, his girlfriend doesn’t come back nor do his falling business gets reformed on its own but his perspective to see things changes and all problems seemed small in front of his eyes. Now he wants to actually solve his messed up life. He didn’t know that at the end Kareena will marry her but he knew that she had changed his outlook towards life and so he was happy. He achieves what he actually wanted (success in Business). In same situation he reacts differently in different point of time, only difference is his “PERSPECTIVE” and “POSITIVE ATTITUDE”. He comes out as a winner later.

When God sees you fighting with problems with great spirit then he himself gets impressed and gives you bonus points. Besides giving him his flourishing business back he also gives his love (a bonus point from God for having a positive outlook). Warna us rondu sadial se Kaha shadi karti Geet.

Movies are no rocket science. They are inspired from social experiences and real life. They are not out of the blue moon so why not find your inspiration/learning for happiness from them only. Especially Bollywood movies are more real to life coz Indian producers don’t have brains and daring to experiment something unique and different and out of the world like Hollywood does. Except few examples like the movie, Love Story 2050 which failed terribly and is erased from the memories of people completely.

So next time if you feeling low/bored or plain sad then you know what to do. Pick a CD of your favorite inspiring movie and watch it. Simple!!!

Also sharing your problems with your near and dear ones relaxes you a lot. Just like vomiting, feelings are also meant to be vent out to someone close. Don’t keep inside you for long or else you may need to take medicines and at the end more messed up life.

'Some words left unsaid' - Part 1 of a Fiction

What is Love??? A Fiction - (Part 1)

This is a story of a young lad who is gentle enough as a cosset. Her name is Chahat. By profession she is an artist and is associated with a play and drama group in Delhi. Humble is the word synonymous with her. Her friends mean a lot to her. All the happiness in her life is associated with them. She hardly had experienced any emotion in life except being satisfied. Her life was smooth and enjoyable but like most of the girls she used to live in a fairy tale imagination, "one day that special someone will come, her prince charming and take her all along with him forever to a better future."

She was good at her work and enjoyed whatever she does in life. Seldom she wanted anything from someone or hated anyone. She had a blind faith in God and respected her closest friends, Pia and Suman. Though there was still emptiness in her life.

Once she was sitting with her friends (her 2nd family) in a restaurant and then Pia’s phone rang. She was not around so eventually Chahat had to pick it. It was a guy, (Pia's friend) and left a message to Chahat for Pia to call him back. But as happens in the fairy tales, the guy got fascinated with the pretty voice on the other side of the phone and asked for more details from Pia regarding the lady who picked the call initially. “She is a coy and a decent girl, don’t think about her” was Pia's answer to which the guy replied, “I am a decent guy too that’s why I am your friend and I only want to know more about her.”

Pia and Suman always wanted to help Chahat with a special someone in her life as she never was in a relationship with any guy in her entire life of 21 years. "It is high time that you give yourself and life a chance and speak with this guy", said Pia to Chahat.

"I am too scared and have never spoken to any guy like this before", replied Chahat. "I don’t know how to talk with a stranger and will end up making fool of myself. It’s also sounding very cheesy as I am not desperate for friendship". These were the thoughts pondering in her mind to which Pia made her understand that, “this is how you meet people. Sitting at home and hiding your face under veil will not make a guy know about you.” Buuuttttt..... Friends are friends, ek kasam and Chahat was in but only at one condition that she will not speak with the guy. Only sms and that too reply sms will be provided by Pia.
Pia agreed to this, atleast Chahat said yes.

Then it started sms and more sms. The guy (Sunil) was sending it to Chahat and Chahat forwarding it to Pia and Pia sending answer to Chahat and that was forwarded to Sunil. This happened till 3 messages and when it came to answer 4th one then Pia felt asleep as it was 11 at night. Chahat had to reply on her own as she didn’t want to hurt Sunil's feelings.

As not predicted but both Sunil and Chahat felt the connection and instantly they became very good friends. Sunil really liked Chahat as she was a decent girl with beautiful thoughts. He was flattered on her simplicity.

After a long 4 days of sms, Sunil started to insist Chahat to speak on the phone. Chahat again got scared to which Pia explained her saying, "till how long would you be in your safe shell and act like a child. Come out of your tender behavior and act maturely."

Now there was no option but to talk to the guy she had started to like.
Phone calls started and here is the guy footing the bill. The never ending calls became the daily routine of Chahat and Sunil.
What, Why, How were the questions coming to Chahat's mind.

Knowing about this development of talking 24/7, Pia decided to set a day for Chahat's and Sunil's meeting, thinking that they should not get too serious for each other unless they actually meet. The day was friendship day, 5th August.
As this was the first official date of Chahat, so butterflies was there in her stomach. Pia and Suman accompanied her to make her feel relaxed but told her that, “you have to sit alone and we would not join you both and dare you tell this to Sunil that we are accompanying you.” Pia and Suman were also glad that finally they two were meeting because Sunil’s friend was Pia’s boyfriend.

Sunil entered the restaurant and recognized Chahat at the first sight. His heart started pounding fast as he was seeing the most amazingly impeccant and beautiful girl in his life. Chahat knew that Sunil hate lies so she was scared as she was hiding a truth from him.

Being too shy Chahat started to fumble and blurted out that her friends are also there hiding at different places. This was the first mistake of Chahat's life. This erupted a volcano between the 3 friends and furious Pia and Suman left in anger. Sunil obviously felt bad as if he was a terrorist and CBI came to spy on him. This was Sunil’s and Pia’s first meeting as well which resulted into a debacle.

So the first date was a disaster. As soon as Chahat, Pia and Suman reached home, all of them had a terrible fight. Sunil was angry with Pia as he felt cheated, however he didn’t know the situation between the 3 friends.

Returning home weeping with broken heart and fear of losing her friends Chahat called Sunil and told him everything. He was a self respecting guy still he put that aside and called Pia to patch up things with Chahat.
The last thing Sunil wanted to see is tears in Chahat's eyes. His heart was broken as why he ever said yes to meet Chahat. They were happy being phone friends.

Finally the problem got solved and 3 friends were together again. Sunil was able to help Chahat and made things better between her and her friends but in the course he lost his new found friendship. Sunil atleast felt happy for Chahat but didnt want to continue his friendship with Pia which became sour. Chahat was grateful to Sunil as he helped her in whatever way he could. Chahat blamed herself for all this and this was the break of a beautiful friendship of Chahat and Sunil.