Whatever happens, happens for something good...

One day, a conversation with my friend insisted me to write this blog. I told her all these things and she felt better after listening to me. I hope everyone does find few words of solace in this post.

My friend:I am jumbled up with problems and everyone is happy around me. When you are actually deplorable then no one is there with you and you are left alone with a whole lot of problems. My life is messed up and it will remain like this forever...

Here is my commend to her...

No new words or new philosophy I am going to teach you today. I just want to remind you the very famous dialogue of "Kareena Kapoor" in "Jab We Met", "jo insan actual mein chahta hai, real mein use hamesha wai milta hai"-"if a person wishes to have something actually then he surely gets it".

It may sound abrupt but just look and observe the people around you. A pessimist fails once and it is multiplied by 100 coz of his attitude. He will be depressed, sad and loom for so many days. He will talk to everyone with anger and therefore his problems multiply. Nobody wants to even see a freaking person like him. Before doing any other job he knows that he has failed already and he actually does coz his attitude has killed his self confidence and faith.

Whereas an optimist’s one failure will make him sad for 1 day or less but he immediately consoles himself and looks at the positive side, takes a deep breath and laughs around with his friends saying "who rejected me didn’t have eyes but button". Therefore for him the world is at fault, so he tries again and again and again unless he lands at what he wants (PS: given same situation to both of them).

Somewhere and sometimes even God surrenders and gives you what you want :-)

This has actually happened with me. Pessimist didn’t want to be successful and so he doesn’t and an optimistic wanted to be successful and at the end, he gets what he wants, if not everything then something satisfactory. God knows better than us what is good for us. We may get adamant like a small kid to play with a particular toy but our parents know better which toy is hazardous for us so that’s why they bring some other, more nice toy to play with but will never leave their kid without a toy. Same goes with God and human's relationship.

It’s all about perspective. We may be sad for a particular thing, example, “someone said bad words for us behind our back”. However an optimistic will feel betrayed for a little time but besides spoiling his day for a person who doesn’t matter to him, he will see the positive side, make fun of the person in his heart and think him as a fool who didn’t understand a gem of a person like him.

If I may take an example from the movie "Jab we met" itself, in the first scene, Shahid Kapoor was distressed. He leaves his lavish lifestyle /business/his family and everything behind coz his girlfriend ditched him. In his journey he meets Kareena, the ever bubbly and most importantly optimistic person. Nothing personally changes in his life, his girlfriend doesn’t come back nor do his falling business gets reformed on its own but his perspective to see things changes and all problems seemed small in front of his eyes. Now he wants to actually solve his messed up life. He didn’t know that at the end Kareena will marry her but he knew that she had changed his outlook towards life and so he was happy. He achieves what he actually wanted (success in Business). In same situation he reacts differently in different point of time, only difference is his “PERSPECTIVE” and “POSITIVE ATTITUDE”. He comes out as a winner later.

When God sees you fighting with problems with great spirit then he himself gets impressed and gives you bonus points. Besides giving him his flourishing business back he also gives his love (a bonus point from God for having a positive outlook). Warna us rondu sadial se Kaha shadi karti Geet.

Movies are no rocket science. They are inspired from social experiences and real life. They are not out of the blue moon so why not find your inspiration/learning for happiness from them only. Especially Bollywood movies are more real to life coz Indian producers don’t have brains and daring to experiment something unique and different and out of the world like Hollywood does. Except few examples like the movie, Love Story 2050 which failed terribly and is erased from the memories of people completely.

So next time if you feeling low/bored or plain sad then you know what to do. Pick a CD of your favorite inspiring movie and watch it. Simple!!!

Also sharing your problems with your near and dear ones relaxes you a lot. Just like vomiting, feelings are also meant to be vent out to someone close. Don’t keep inside you for long or else you may need to take medicines and at the end more messed up life.